Consider this your life improvement consultation. Today, I’ll teach you 5 brain hacks to survive your holiday breakup and come out smelling like roses. These brain hacks will alter your neurotransmitters (the chemicals that control how you feel) to help take away the sting and speed up your recovery.
Breakups suck and holiday breakups doubly so. If you’re still reeling from your separation, the last thing you want to do is go out and face the world, or watch couples getting lovey dovey in the streets. Thankfully, there’s an easy way to ride out the storm …and you won’t need to drown your sorrows in booze or throw yourself back into the dating game.
Let’s start with what’s going on inside your brain.
When you’re dating your brain releases a steady trickle of two very important chemicals. Oxytocin and dopamine. Oxytocin is responsible for your warm fuzzies. That feeling of connection and safety. Dopamine makes you feel good – it’s also the main reason why alcohol and many drugs make you feel great…for a little while. Unsurprisingly, dopamine and oxytocin are highly addictive — and when you stop being in a relationship, you experience withdrawal.
With less dopamine, you feel sad or depressed. With less oxytocin, you feel unloved and alone. Breaking up also alters your serotonin release. This makes it harder for you to sleep, kills your appetite, and makes it harder for you to concentrate. Together, they’re what make your breakup suck. They’re also one of the big reasons why it’s so tempting to get back together with the other person. Your brain is like an addict. It’s willing to do whatever it can to get its fix of oxytocin and dopamine.
I’ve put together a life improvement consultation for you – 5 ways to hack your brain chemicals so your brain stops acting like a junky looking for its next fix.
Help others. Don’t try to counsel someone else through their breakup. That will just make you feel worse. Instead, focus on random acts of kindness. Buy coffee for the person in line behind you. Give some spare change to the homeless. Volunteer. Compliment a stranger.
The effects are immediate. Within seconds of doing your public service you’ll experience a powerful mood boost.
How it works: this triggers one of the oldest, most important parts of your brain – the “altruism center”. It’s how we started working together and building civilization. Banding together feels good. The more you do this, the better you’ll feel.
Touch. This might sound weird, but getting touched or held is crucial. Touch releases the all-important bonding chemical – oxytocin and it’s critical that you get physical contact if you want to start feeling more yourself. Get hugs from friends, pet your cat, get a massage, or even take a hot shower.
All of these things are proven to cause your brain to release more oxytocin and they can work wonders.
Keep your plans with friends and family. Resist the urge to go into hermit-like isolation. Being alone can only make things worse. People are wired to be social creatures – we simply can’t help building our lives around others. When you’re in a relationship, it’s pretty natural to put priority on the person you’re dating. That’s why when they’re gone, it feels like there’s a missing piece in your life.
While friends can’t fully replace the person you were dating, having a stable, friendly presence will go a long way to helping you rebuild your life and shifting your focus away from your EX.
Hack yourself. Throw yourself at new projects, especially things that you might have neglected while you were dating. Build things, create music, start knocking things off your bucket list.
If you want our advice, getting back into shape is a fantastic personal project for a variety of reasons. Not only will you look and feel better, you’ll also reap the benefits of the lovely endorphins your body releases.
Self care. Make sure you’re getting enough food, water, and exercise. This is the most important of all. Your mood really depends on whether your basic biological needs are being met. If you aren’t getting enough sleep, for instance, it’s way easier for depression to kick in, or spiral out of control. Don’t forget to be good to yourself – set reminders for yourself if you have to!
And there you have it, 5 ways to hack your brain to survive an ugly holiday breakup.
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