Toxic people abound in today’s world. It’s a fact that we all have to deal with, so we must train ourselves to recognize them. One we do, we then have to design the best plan to deal with them. First thing’s first: if you want a peaceful and happy life, what you should do is kick them out of your life for good. Stop communicating with them, don’t cave in when they come around asking for attention, and they will eventually get the message and move on.
However, that is not always an easy thing to do. Many of the toxic people that surround us happen to be people who are important to us. They can be family members, friends, ex-partners, etc. Cutting them out of our life may be good for us, but will it be good for them?
Keeping someone who is toxic is understandable if we are sure that that is what we want, and we want to help in making the necessary changes that will allow them to be better people.
It may seem like a tall order, but it is doable.
What you can do to start is to limit the amount of time that you give to them. You don’t need to disappear altogether, but if you are not always readily available at their every beck and call, they will be given the time that they need to understand that the world does not revolve around them.
From there, they should have the wherewithal to take care of their issues on their own.
In addition, teach by example. If you want a toxic individual to be more responsible and less stressful, do not hesitate to show them how it can be done by being that, yourself. And learn to draw boundaries. Carve out your own personal space, so that you can create a separate one that you can use to help others see the change that they need and then realize it.